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Wednesday, September 26, 2007

The faraway gaze

I have moved to Tokyo exactly one month ago for a 4-month internship in a Japanese environmental consultancy company.

There were many ups and downs of course and the past few days were particularly dark for me, and like I have said to friends, one of the darkest days of my entire stay in Japan. I am still trying to survive it, to make sense of it.

On my way home from work to JR Shibuya station, I saw some people gathering around this group of 5 japanese guys and girls, holding placards that say “Free Hugs”.

Feeling like a dump and having nothing to lose, I walked towards the Japanese youngsters enthusiastically holding “Free hugs” signs. I really needed one at that time but to my utter disappointment, all I got were half-assed hugs designed to keep you at a safe distance, and eyes that linger more at the crowd gathering around them, than on me, the supposed object of affection for the moment. I guess these people are more concerned with how other people perceive their “open-mindedness” and their passion. Well, people should step forward, try them and judge for themselves the novelty of their actions. I was left cold, and I am sure I will find people who think the same.

I have wasted 5 hugs on self-absorbed people who haven’t gone past the pedestal that they put themselves onto. Good luck to these people.

I have found the Japanese website for this “Free Hugs” campaign and I would like to file an official complaint. Anyone wanna help? I think they need to improvise.

http://www.freehugs-jp.com/

9 Comments:

Blogger E.S. said...

Oh come on! I'd rather have you hug some guy in your office than random Japanese people. are they out of cats on the streets of Tokyo?

12:53 am

 
Blogger roachz said...

Yeah no cats! I will look for some kitty volunteer center and see if I can do anything to help!

11:47 am

 
Blogger Indeterminacy said...

Now you are in Tokyo??? That's fantastic! Now you can finally see one of Mayuko's Georama shows. Even if the hugs are free, warmth and intimacy are very hard to find among strangers. I think it has nothing to do with Japan - it's probably human.

5:29 pm

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

indeterminacy is right hun. I just realised that we only really hugged when 1)you left for japan, 2)when i arrived in japan, and 3)when I was leaving for home from Japan.

We need to hug more. And I wish I could be there with you in Tokyo, so I could be your hug provider! :)

9:57 pm

 
Blogger AL LEE said...

When you come back here, I will give you a real hug with no pretense.

12:24 am

 
Blogger Tom & Icy said...

So sorry about your dark day and the insincere hugs. Hope you get back in the arms of your true friends soon.

1:35 pm

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It wouldn't be called life if we didn't have any darkened days ne? I think what you need is a little time to adjust, a little time to relax, a little time to work, and some free time to release your imagination/anger/frustration. Just take a sec, relax, and float away! Oh! And just so you...AND I would feel better there's a HUUUUUUUGGGGEEEE warm hug to you from me!!! And alwasy remember the phrase "がんばって!!!!!"! Always helps me in my dark times! and remember to keep 元気、元気、元気!^-^v Life has to suck sometimes to make sure you don't forget about it! =)

2:08 pm

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hajimemashite! i'm just a stranger passing by and here's a hug for u! cheer up! anyway, just i'm staying in Obaku now! and i'm gonna study at Kyoto Uni for a year! :D it's really a pleasant place. anyway, i was wondering if you are using a lomo camera... contact me at the_daedreamer@hotmail.com please? :D
s.y.

9:42 pm

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

4 month internship in tokyo...how cool!!! ...the best hug a person can ever get/give is firstly to themselves. It is only whn we truly love ourselves and accept ourselves for whom we r (good and bad) that we can truly love others :)

enjoy tokyo!!

10:54 pm

 

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